Computer use can be monitored. Use a safe computer. Learn more.

Is your relationship healthy?

How are you treating your partner?

1. Do you ever get upset when your partner spends time with their family or friends without you?

» Yes » No

YES: In a healthy relationship, it is important for both partners to respect each other’s space and their relationships with others. Discouraging or preventing a partner from seeing family or friends is controlling and unfair. Trying to control your partner is a warning sign for abusive behavior.

NO: That’s good! It sounds like you respect your partner’s space and their need to spend time with other people who are also important to them.

2. Have you ever checked your partner’s phone or text messages without them knowing?

» Yes » No

YES: Checking someone’s messages without their permission violates their privacy and their trust in you. If you are checking up on them because you suspect they are cheating it is best to be direct and talk about it.

NO: Super! It sounds like you trust your partner, and trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship.

3. During past disagreements with your partner, have you been able to discuss problems calmly and resolve them together?

» Yes » No

YES: Great! Practicing open and respectful communication along with willingness to compromise will benefit all your relationships.

NO: Healthy communication involves listening to each other during disagreements and communicating in a calm manner. Walking away from discussions or choosing not to resolve problems will deteriorate your relationship. Yelling and cussing are always inappropriate and are abusive methods of communication.

4. Have you ever tried to convince your partner to be more sexual with you?

» Yes » No

YES: A healthy sexual relationship means that both partners agree to and feel comfortable with sexual activity. Trying to pressure, convince, or beg a partner to have sex is unhealthy and shows disrespect for your partner’s boundaries and feelings. Using force or threats to have sex is sexual assault or rape.

NO: Good job. Respecting your partner’s sexual boundaries ensures that the relationship is safe and comfortable for both of you.

5. In your opinion, is it ever ok to keep certain things private from your partner?

» Yes » No

YES: We agree! No one should feel like they have to tell-all to their partner. But, it’s also important to be honest about things that affect your partner and/or the relationship. These are things they need to know.

NO: Although honesty is an important part of a healthy relationship, we are not entitled to know everything about the people we date. Everyone has the right to keep certain things private. It is, however, always best to be honest about things that affect the relationship. These are things that need to be shared.

How is your partner treating you?

1. Does your partner get upset or jealous when you want to spend time with your family or friends?

» Yes » No

YES: In a healthy relationship, both partners respect each other’s space and relationships with others. A partner who demands all your time or who tries to prevent you from spending time with family or friends is demonstrating controlling behavior. This is a warning sign to you that the relationship may become abusive.

NO: That’s good! It sounds like your partner respects your space and the relationships you have with others.

2. Does your partner accuse you of cheating on them or constantly question who you’ve been around or spoken to?

» Yes » No

YES: Although this may seem like a trust issue that can be easily resolved, abusers are often suspicious and want to know their partners whereabouts and who they’ve been in contact with at all times. This type of behavior is definitely a warning sign for abuse in your relationship.

NO: Great! It sounds like your partner trusts you and gives you the space you need.

3. When you disagree with your partner, does your partner listen to you and try to understand your point of view?

» Yes » No

YES: Good! It sounds like you and your partner communicate in a healthy way. Remember that healthy communication also includes compromising and respecting each other even when you don’t necessarily agree.

NO: If your partner does not listen to and respect your feelings and/or opinions they probably don’t respect you. If they yell, cuss, or make you feel unsafe during disagreements, this is abuse, please consult with the information in our site to get help.

4. Does your partner ever tell you to change because they don’t like what you’re wearing?

» Yes » No

YES: In a healthy relationship both partners respect each other’s decisions, including what they decide to wear. If your partner demands that you to change, or makes rude comments about your appearance that upset you or hurt your feelings, they are practicing abusive behaviors.

NO: Sounds good! In a healthy relationship both partners respect each other’s decisions, including what they decide to wear.

5. When it comes to sex and sexual activity, do you and your partner communicate and make decisions together?

» Yes » No

YES: Wonderful! I sounds like you and your partner have a healthy and respectful sexual relationship.

NO: A healthy sexual relationship means that both partners agree to and feel comfortable with sexual activity. If your partner tries to pressure, convince, or beg you to have sex this is unhealthy and demonstrates disrespect toward you. If your partner ever uses force or threats to have sex with you, this is sexual assault or rape, please consult with the information in our site to get help.

If your quiz responses indicate that your partner’s behavior is unhealthy or abusive please explore our site to learn more about abuse and consult our resources page if you’re interested in getting support or help.