Alright, so I thought I fell in "love", however, it is really complicated and I feel as though I have been <s>somewhat of</s> a jerk now. Please, allow me to elaborate. I fell for one of my <s>good</s> best, however, after a long and drawn out sequence of events, I discovered she didn't like me the same way. Eventually, she found out about the crush I had on her and I've sort of dragged things on a bit. She only wants to be friends now, and now, so do I. I kept telling myself (and her) that, but I never actually truly believed it. Now, I am going to try and completely "bury the hatchet", and try to put it behind us (that's what she wants, and now, that is entirely what I want). I will have no regrets of this, and from this point fourth, actions will speak louder than words (especially half-baked promises that I meant to be true but accidentally slipped up on). I do believe I will require a stronger willpower to go through with this though. The reason being, one of my good friends, Elijah, called me a stalker (because I still had feelings for her after finding out from a mutual friend that she didn't feel the same way about me), does having a crush on someone (and making a couple bad decisions, like coming on too strong, going out of my way to hint that I like her, and various other stupid things that I now regret doing entirely) truly make you a stalker? I am quitting this stupidity now, not only because it's the right thing to do, because it's what she wants, or to salvage our friendship, but rather all three of those things, plus I now see the error of my ways and wish to do so. I would hate for one or both of us to be uncomfortable around each other as friends, just over some stupid teenage crush. So I am putting an end to it, and respecting her wishes (as well as my own) by going back to just being friends. In fact, I believe I may have unconsciously showed my affection a few times (i.e. my Final Fantasy XI character is named after her and commenting on every single one of her Facebook statuses). I also want to show her (as well as myself), that I don't want that sort of vibe, just as she doesn't, or we will always hate (and/or feel uncomfortable around each other) for the rest of our lives, and neither of us want to lose our very close friendship over something so trivial and stupid. Right now I am actually sad, I'm almost never said (only been sad twice in like 3 years; when my cousin died about a week ago and now), I really screwed up bad, and now I just feel terrible, I am almost crying (not that I <s>usually</s> ever cry) because of what I've done (see above), I feel so sorry for what I've done to Tabitha (made her feel awkward and/or bad/sad around me), I don't even know where to begin to make it up to her (however, I have decided that putting an end to this one-sided romance is the best course of action for my first step). Anyone have any advice, questions, commentary?

i wont lie to you, that was quite confusing haha. but i understand how you must feel. and i admit, i feel sorry for you, perhaps you should try to forget it all and move on? and then, who knows, maybe sometime in the future you will become friends again. but to do this, i think first you must move on (as it where) (:

good luck! x

Hi,

All people can be a little crazy. When you suffer from something as confusing and stressful as losing a family member you will often cling to a situation or scenario and give it more life than it truly deserves.

If this girl is truly your friend then she will get over it and just be your friend. Regardless of whether she likes someone esle or not, the fact remains that she should have been flattered that you liked her.

That being said, you are right to completely cut off all behaviours that may be making her uncomfortable. Part of loving someone is respecting the decisions that she makes for herself; even if they hurt you.

The good news is that you are going to recover from this very quickly. A crush, though super painful, is a lot different than true love. She, her friends, and whomever else is making a bigger deal out this than it truly is, may just be getting a little full of themselves trying to pump the situation up into something that it isn't.

You are clearly a well-spoken, intelligent person, with a really good heart (not a lot of people think about how their behaviour is affecting another person). You should be proud of yourself for: caring about another person, seeking advice, and being so proactive about moving on. What the bigger concern here is how you are taking care of yourself?

You have lost a family member and the people around you sound less than supportive. This would be a relaly great time to talk to someone else in your family and reconnect with the people that are going to be with you for the rest of your life.

Good luck.